Learning to change my identity has been one of the most impactful tools for lasting change in my day-to-day life.
Most people already do this, but probably don’t realize it. Have you ever watched a movie and left feeling more like Thomas Shelby or Captain America?
This feeling may feel childish, but I think it has roots in a powerful place. You saw a piece of their identity that you liked, and try (even subconsciously) to adopt that for yourself.
This can be taken too far, we call that idolisation.
It can be ignored as a tool, and unfortunately we call that ‘growing up’.
It’s interesting to me that we throw away these habits that allow for massive identity change in the spirit of ‘growing up.’
What if we kept this small habit of directly mimicking behaviour we want to have? It sounds obvious, but even after realising how to change my behaviour, I struggled to.
On the flip side of behavior change…
Our current approach at changing behaviour involves a lot of root cause analysis (therapy).
Does it work? Yes, over time + with full participation from both the therapist and patient.
I’m sitting and asking the ignorant question of:
What if we can skip root cause analysis and dozens of sessions by modelling behaviour we want to emulate?
Update in 2022 - This probably misses the emotional side of therapy. We can model all day, but what if that’s just creating a shell over our true feelings? How long does that last?