The Forty Rules of Love

The Forty Rules of Love

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A multi-character/historical conversation about love.

One book…everyone knows the rules. This gets a 6.6/10.

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“God created suffering so that joy might appear through its opposite,”” Rumi said. “Things become manifest through opposites. Since God has no opposite, He remains hidden.” [p.121] This compelled me due to previous thoughts on
You said the idea that we could control the course of our lives through rational choices was as absurd as a fish trying to control the ocean in which it swam . I thought about your next sentence a lot: “The idea of a Knowing Self has generated not only false expectations but also disappointments in places where life does not match our expectations.” [p.144] Still an area of heavy debate in my mind, as outlined in
Pygmalion & Golem Effect
Bountiful is your life, full and complete. Or so you think, until someone comes along and makes you realize what you have been missing all this time. [p.192]
It’s as if for years on end you compile a personal dictionary. In it you give your definition of every concept that matters to you, such as “truth,” “happiness,” or “beauty.” At every major turning point in life, you refer to this dictionary, hardly ever feeling the need to question its premises. [p.192]
What I saw in Magnolia’s eyes was fear—not the fear that I could fail and be punished by the patron but the fear that I might succeed. [p.230]
For your faith to be rock solid, your heart needs to be as soft as a feather. [p.244]
But it was rare, as rare as rubies, for a man who had already made his way up, a man who had plenty of gold, fame, and authority, to renounce his position all of a sudden one day and endanger his reputation for an inner journey. [p.246]
“The message is that the torment a person can inflict upon himself is endless. Hell is inside us, and so is heaven.” -Shams [p.257]
…”This is the conflict between the scholar and the mystic, between the mind and the heart.”
If Rumi’s reputation is ruined, people won’t look up to you as the son of an eminent man anymore. Does that scare you? [p.274] Reminded me of the Nassim Taleb Aphorism: “The traits I respect are erudition and the courage to stand up when half-men are afraid for their reputation. Any idiot can be intelligent.”

Would I re-read this?

What did I implement?